Remind me?

Once in a while, there will be a life event which seems to disprove years of progress you thought you made — it shakes you to your core. Suddenly, you question everything. You start questioning yourself. You start doubting yourself.

You feel invisible. You yearn to be seen. You struggle to love yourself. You find it hard to clearly see yourself.

Your brain goes haywire from the 1000+ thoughts running through your head. You desperately wish to shut it down but alas, it seems to have a mind of it own.

Even talking to people/friends doesn’t help — because what you really want to ask is — “do you see me?”

There will be moments when even breathing seems hard.

Building yourself back up seems impossible. But you will. Because you must. There’s no other way. You can’t just wait for life to sway you one direction or another. It’s just not the right way to live.

In an ideal world, there would be nothing wrong with asking your close friends — “Hey! I’m not feeling like myself today. Can you remind me of who I am?” But you don’t live in an ideal world. Reality is flawed. You could be seen as weak or attention seeking for asking the question. Or worse (in my opinion)- you get a disappointing answer in response that only seems to amplify your self-doubt. A response which makes you question if your friend/partner even appreciates you or values you. A response that makes you question the existence of your bond. Yep, it happens. You’d want to give them the benefit of the doubt — maybe they are not good at communicating their feelings. But you feel uneasy for a reason. That gut feeling is telling you something. Don’t ignore it.

Solution: Turn to the people who accept you for who you are. Surround yourself with people who root for you rather than criticize or judge you. You fight against the world every single day, you shouldn’t have to fight to be seen in friendships, too.